If you want to be happy with your parents, you should think of living with them peacefully. Sometimes, there are many troubles between parents and children just because they don't know how to live peacefully. Basically, children should not argue with parents when parents say any words whatever right or wrong. Try to look at their eyes and pay attention. That is polite to them. You will find the advantages of it.
如果你想愉快地与父母共处,你应该考虑如何与他们和睦相处。有时候,孩子和父母之间总是存在着大大小小的矛盾,却仅仅是因为他们不知道如何和睦相处。最基本的,孩子不应该在父母说话的时候与他们顶撞,无论父母说的对与否。并且眼睛要时刻注视着父母,集中注意力。这对大家来说是一种尊重的方式。你即将找到这样做的好处。
我们平时和父母说话是否和气,面色是否和悦,行为是否恭敬?如果你给父母冷脸子看,父母心里会多么难受啊。让人们觉得“养子不孝不如无”吗?顺心,就不能嫌父母唠叨。父母是怎么想的,你没听完真的知道吗?如果一个人连让父母把话说完都不肯,能算个孝子吗?顺心,还要考虑不能让父母有挂心的事。父母有难处要及时帮助解决,有疾病要赶紧求医问药。我们对众生的苦,还要发慈悲心,何况是父母呢? 如果我们对父母都不慈悲的话,那我们对众生的慈悲就是假的,纯粹为了个人功德而做罢了。我们孝顺不是为了求功德,孝顺是发自内心的真正的爱,是对父母十月怀胎、三年哺乳、辛苦抚育的深切感激。一定要让父母心里顺心和开心。象二十四孝里的老莱子,八十多了还穿彩色衣服唱歌跳舞让父母开心,有时故意慢慢摔倒装婴儿哭,让二老欢笑。这多好啊。 但还不够。 每日考虑养亲悦亲,还算不得尽孝,还要爱惜精神,不敢随便斲伤(说白了就是不要经常熬夜,不要房事过度等,唉。)不要犯法,还应该种德报亲,诸恶莫作,众善奉行,做出保身修身的孝。你要是行为不好,人们会认为你父母不好。这不是给父母丢脸吗? 有人说我父母对我不好,我很难孝顺。父母对自己好,孝顺不难。对自己不好,孝顺才是真的呢。必须要父母对自己好才孝顺的话,那是在做生意。再说还有比大舜更难的吗?大舜的父母和兄弟在他上房修理屋顶时放火烧他,在他下井淘井时拿石头盖他。可是他无怨无悔,只是责备自己不能感动父母而已。 有的说我穷,无法孝顺。可是孝顺不仅仅限于物质啊。以前的孝子们,有的有代父受刑刀斧不避,有的万里寻亲性命不顾。就是遭了最苦境界,也能做出孝顺来。真是令人敬佩。 如果一言一行,总是考虑着是否给父母丢脸,是否对得起父母,方才叫做是孝顺。 但这还不究竟。
We usually talk to your parents whether and, if there was, whether the act of respect? If you give parents cold face, parents will feel how hard ah. Let people feel " adopted son unfilial as no"? Well, can't be parents nag. Parents is how to think, you have to really know? Even if a person let parents finish would not, can calculate a filial son? Well, consider not let parents have something on your mind. Parents have difficulty in a timely manner to help solve, have the disease quickly chemists. We all have a heart, bitter, and are the parents?
If our parents have no mercy on you, that our compassion for sentient beings is a fake, purely for the sake of personal merit and do. Our life is to seek merit, filial piety is a genuine love for parents, is pregnant in October, three years of lactation, hard tending deeply grateful. Make sure your parents mind and happy. Like" in more than 80 Laolaizi, also wearing colorful clothes sing and dance to make parents happy, sometimes deliberately and slowly fell a baby cry, let them laugh. This much good. But not enough.
Daily have pro Yuet pro, is not cruel, but also cherish the spirit, dare not seriously injured ( that is not often stay up late, not excessive sexual intercourse, alas. ) Don't break the law, should also be a German newspaper pro, don't be evil, all good practice, make sure to filial piety. If you act well, people will think your parents is not good. This is not for parents?
Some people say my parents is not good for me, it is very difficult for me to filial piety. Parents for their own good, filial piety is not difficult. On its own is not good, filial piety is true. Must for their parents is filial, that is in business. Besides there is more difficult? Dashun 's parents and brother in his housing repair roof set fire to him, in his next wells wash wells took the stone he. But he has no regrets, just blame myself cannot be touched by the parents.
Some say that my poor, not filial. But the filial is not limited to material. The previous child, some inmates did not avoid the ax etc., some miles search my life away. By the most bitter realm, also can make filial piety to. It is admirable.
If every word and action, think about whether to give parents, whether or not worthy of their parents, just called filial.
But this is not what.